How to start doing what you want even if it is painfully hard


Start doing what you want

Are you frozen and nervous to start what you want?

Starting from scratch might be a scary stunt.

What happens if you start doing anyway? 

You probably think,

what if you are killing time?

I know how painful it is to start from scratch and moreover it is hard to figure it out for yourself.

Trying everything which strikes your mind and putting yourself in dilemma.

I have been there but as I am getting matured, I have realised that starting is important than achieving success.

However, these tiny bumps won't pour water into your success recipe, but they make you feel and realise that you are human.

Fortunately, there is a way you can start doing what you want even in a painful and changing environment.

Curious to know what the heck?

Surprisingly, the human brain craves to finish anything which is started.

Why late, let's start:

5 Strategies to start doing what you want 

1. Ingrain your habits into your brain.

 Generally starting what you want is not painful but anticipation about the end result and the fear that you might fail leads to the pain.

And you don't want that.

This is the foremost reason why you don't at least try and start what you want.

Hopefully, if you had the idea that you are one step away from glorious success, you would definitely start.

Now here is the astounding and backbone of every step:

Ingrain your powerful habits into your brain so that you can start doing what you want without taking the pain of figuring it out every time how to do it.

Habits are the automatic routines that you are already using in your daily life right from brushing your teeth to going to sleep.

Understand how habits work, they are the daily routines performed when triggered by cues in the environment and for the reward of satisfaction.

This is the loop of any habit

It something goes like this: cue-routine-reward

We all perform routines and make new habits for that reward of satisfaction.

For instance: you would want to have a cup of coffee for the instant boost of refreshment and relaxing your brain.

Here the loop is: 

After brushing your teeth(cue or trigger)-routine(having a cup of coffee)- reward(refreshment and relaxation)

But how many routines are really necessary and matters, you just have a look at your habits and routines once and plan a schedule.

Like, prepare a to-do list and evaluate what are the routines and tasks that are important for you to do in the first place.

Evaluate and edit your list to choose one task that is super important and get that done first what so ever. 

Let's say your foremost important task is to read a book first. Let us do it step by step:

  • Get up early in the morning
  • Brush your teeth
  • Read 5-10 pages of a book
  • Have a cup of coffee
Here your current behaviour will act as a cue(brushing your teeth) for your new habit of reading a book and having a cup of coffee as a reward.

In this case, you will have to stick a new habit to an already existing cue and the reward.

That said, you either choose to read a book while having a coffee or after having a shower, but your present behaviour should be a trigger to your new habit.

You can adhere to and bind any new habit this way, and do it consistently on a daily basis.

Apparently, start doing the most important tasks first, one at a time.

  • Choose a small task or routine.
  • And attach it to your old behaviour or habit.
  • Reward yourself with any refreshment.

This applies to every area of your life, you can change any bad habit or make a new habit with this technique flawlessly.

Usually, it seems painfully hard to start anything new until you understand how habits and the process works, but once you know the process, it is snackable and as easy as you make a cake.

2. Be specific in choosing what to do

While you are scheduling a to-do list for your day, month and year. You don't be so generic that:

  • I want to do a business
  • I want to go on a vacation
  • I want to write a book
This is so broad that lose a battle to find its space in your brain.

There is a problem with these broad goals when you have to actually do it, your brain procrastinates with a mini sentence:

 " That's a huge bulky goal, you can do it later. "

And interestingly, until you narrow it down and point out the exact thing that you want to do, your brain has no clue where to start.

Your brain, without any hesitation, will drop it and will not be able to achieve it, because it can't process the whole information on its own.

Setting a broad goal is like asking your navigation system in your car to take you to the destination where you have only provided the main city name.

To get you to your destination, you should provide the exact address of your destination like street name, lane number, road number, door number and so on.

On the other hand, without a proper map to your destination, you couldn't move further, instead give the exact address of your goal so that your brain can process it without a hitch and get you to the destination miraculously.

When you do this, your brain will be able to consume it without any effort and understand this is where I have to go and let on you to take further action effortlessly.

3. Kill your excuses by doing this

More often than not, everyone will come up with excuses like I have no money, I have no time, I have no resources, or I can think it on later.

Surprisingly, this is not the exact reason for not starting what you want, but sometimes you don't want to come out of your comfort zone.

you would rather tend to do only familiar things and whereas if it is unfamiliar you eliminate it completely.

But unless you try and do something new and unique how can you get the different results you wanted.

We all expect distinct and perfect results by doing the same old routines and actions over and over again.

If you want to see the different results think something new and untouched and importantly stretch your comfort zone.

The comfort zone can be stretched as much as you can:

For instance: Let's say if you don't have money to invest in a business, don't ignore it by not starting at all.

But, Try and choose a business that needs only a small amount of investment like blogging, affiliate marketing, publishing your own e-book, dropshipping business, or creating a digital product.

It should be something unusual and unique from what you are already carrying out with your life and make a tiny decision to take that action. 

Even if your idea has traces of old concept, doesn't matter, add your style and essence to it, to stipple it into a unique piece.

On contrary, start-off with anything unimaginably small will kill your excuses and will make your habits, routines, actions and decisions flawless.

This approach is not for your long term goals alone, but you can apply it to any area of your life. From choosing a book to read, to choosing healthy food.

 Eating healthy for the whole month could be intensely hard but following a healthy diet at least one day a week is effortless and obviously easy.

If it is not outstanding it doesn't mean that you need to ignore from doing in the least.

4. Start working with what you have

It is easy for you to think that you can do when everything is perfect and until you find an outstanding way and end up skipping from doing at all.

If it is not perfect that doesn't mean it is not useful and helpful.

Focus on what you have and aim at the best later.

In fact, learning the basics is as important as becoming an expert overnight. Instead, polish your basic skills with the resources you already have.

Because expertise won't come unless you have mastered the fundamentals.

Let's say, if you want to write an e-book and publish, then don't wait for the things to happen like you don't have to wait until the billion-dollar idea strikes or until you have enough money to publish a book.

Instead, if you have a pen and a piece of paper, start brainstorming ideas for your book, read other books, improve your writing skills and start writing the 1st chapter of your book.

And you can research and refine it later.

We all almost tend to ignore what we have and constantly think about the end results overwhelming ourselves and eliminate from our to-do list forever.

Rather than start doing with the resources you already have and rest of the things follow as you commence.

5. Power of tiny improvements

You probably think that massive results need a massive change and a huge earth-shattering step to be taken in order to get the desired results.

But, all massive results are the result of the small accumulation of tiny improvements in every area of your life.

The accumulation of small improvements will one day turn into a huge outcome.

But, you always anticipate that huge outcome first, and concentrate on that, and forget to take the small first step which is also a part of a huge result.

Everyone thinks as though the success is an emergency to reach the occasion, and overlooks the process to stick which ultimately leads there.

For instance: What would you do if you had to reach the nearest food court to have something to eat desperately, you won't jump out of the balcony and fly to reach that place right.

Instead, you take that first step of deciding in your mind first.

And then you walk out of the door and take a lift or stairs to come out and walk down the street step by step and then you would cross the signals, roads and finally enter into your favourite food court to have that delightful snack. 

Now, expecting an immediate result and attempting to a huge goal with a massive step is like jumping out of the balcony to get that mouth-watering snack.

Rather than take your first simple step of deciding what to do in your mind and then follow the step by step process to reach your ultimate goal.

Look at your goal in the big picture but not the results you want, focus on the process which leads you to that massive results.

Final thoughts:

Now here is your last chance to start doing what you want:

  • All you have to do is notice your self and observe what are your habits and daily routines.

  • Break them down into chunks and look for the clue that, is this habit really matters to me? If it's not, ruthlessly abandon them and replace it with a new habit.

  • Start with a small portion of your task and finish it off. Remember that unless you start anything you won't be able to complete it.

  • Schedule what you want to do and assign time and place at what time you are going to start and at what place.

  • Be specific in choosing what to do rather than broader goals. 
  • Figure it out what resonates with you the most and what makes you feel easy and natural, start with that.

  • Stop saying I need to do that, but start doing it. Because everyone is familiar with I need to do that, you need to do that, and we need to do that, no one actually starts doing it.

  • Speak in terms of time and numbers, you decide a specific time to start your work and the number of tasks you would accomplish.

  • Kill your excuses by starting it as small as possible.

  • Get the things done with what you have and forget the one that slipped out of your hands.

  • Importantly start it when you are not feeling to start, start it when you are bored, start it when you are feeling uncomfortable.


Everything boils down to, start doing what you want anyway in the face of adversity and importantly start it before you feel that you can start.

So that your brain has no clue what deceptive messages to generate and finally lose the battle against you and opens the door of success.

Remember that when you start anything you end it anyway because your brain craves to finish it off.

These 5 remarkable strategies are proven to be life-changing in a phenomenal way.

You can spike anything from zero to hero.

And cope from rock-bottom to peak mount.

What are the strategies you follow to start doing what you want?

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Milan Tomic

Hi. I’m Designer of Blog Magic. I’m CEO/Founder of ThemeXpose. I’m Creative Art Director, Web Designer, UI/UX Designer, Interaction Designer, Industrial Designer, Web Developer, Business Enthusiast, StartUp Enthusiast, Speaker, Writer and Photographer. Inspired to make things looks better.

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